There are times when we all need to get off the
grid for a while. I don’t necessarily mean escaping to a cabin in the woods,
far and away from society. However, taking some time away from the non-stop
negativity of the internet is something we all need now and again.
This thought began formulating a few weeks ago
when my oldest daughter announced she was no longer interested in FaceBook, and
culminated this morning when I read Nicole Phillips blog, Kindness is Contagious.
Both women gave the same reason for taking some time off.
I scrolled through my timeline and sure enough
there were countless numbers of negative posts, mostly sharing the “hooray for
our side,” type content, listing all the reasons the other side is wrong about
this, that, or the other thing. Then there were a few hateful posts about love
gone wrong, or the unfair nature of life.
It must be FaceBook! I declared in my mind, and
quickly bounced over to LinkedIn where the professional people post. Scrolled
down the feed, and discovered the reason so many people hate their jobs, or
hate their role in their jobs. Every other post tells you exactly why YOU ARE
DOING IT WRONG! You suck as a leader, because you aren’t doing it this way, or
that way. You suck as an employee, because you aren’t doing this or that. You
aren’t making a profit, because you failed at this or that. You are taking too
much from others, because you failed at this or that. On LinkedIn, you can’t
win. Either way you failed.
Twitter came to mind. Surely Twitter must be
better! Afterall, you only get 140 characters to express your thoughts and
opinions. :::sigh::: not so. The Twitter feed was buzzing in full vigor of
negativity and vulgarity. In 140 characters you can read all the reasons you do
not stack up against human expectation.
So, here we are in the cesspool of the internet,
feeding off all this negativity. Now, we can point fingers at each other and
lay blame at the feet of any one of the five billion people who use the
internet every day. But, the question remains, am I contributing to it? The
answer is yes. No matter who we are, or how wonderful we think we are, we are
most definitely contributors to the constant negativity of the feeds.
Life is not filled with sunshine and roses. That
is a fact. We all have our days, weeks, months, and years filled with tragedy
and loss. However, do we really need to share all that with the rest of the
world, on a regular basis?
It would seem that Negative Nancy and Ned have
been promoted to CEOs of the internet. The question of the day, are you working
for them? Are you sharing every negative post that comes along? Are you
quipping at someone else, because you can? Are you passing judgment on people
you don’t know? Is sarcasm your new favorite language? Are you dissing on
yourself for whatever reason? Are you taking pleasure in another’s tragedy? Are
you posting blind statuses directed at specific people, but you don’t have the
courage to mention their names?
The internet is a choice. You can participate or
not. You can choose what you share, and with whom. You can choose how much you
share, or don’t share.
As we learned from Thumper’s mother in Bambi, “If you can’t say something nice,
don’t say nothin’ at all.”
